THE BIRTH

IMG_0669-2Now that our son, Sky, is 12 days old, and I am slowly, but surely, recovering, I want to share a little about the birth. Although it is such an intimate subject that most people don’t care to know the details of, I feel it is such an amazing process of nature, that, a little of which, just has to be shared.
When most of us think about birth, we think of images we have seen in movies of women screaming in fear and agony with their legs up in stirrups as medical professionals take charge of delivering their babies. After 9 months of watching how this body knows perfectly well how to create a fully formed human baby, then when it comes to the birth, it is as if we don’t trust nature to know how to do it anymore. We fear the unknown, and when we hear of other people’s birth horror stories, and we are told of all the terrible things that could go wrong, this just makes us even more fearful. And in fear, our muscles contract and resist the whole natural process. Birthing, like Life, is about letting go, losing control, not understanding, not relying on logic or thinking. It is simply about following and trusting whatever this body needs to feel, express and do. And this is obviously absolutely unique for each individual body.
For me and Sky, it was one of the most powerfully ‘high’, and at the same time the most earthy, bodily experiences, I have known. No matter what ideas or plans Robert and I may have had about how it would or should go, in the end, it was just about following the body and falling into absolute trust with this experience now, now, now… It was amazing how the body knew exactly what to do in each moment. It was such a letting go of convention, politeness, and social decorum, and simply a surrender to the innate wisdom of animal nature. Funnily enough, as much as the thinking may have liked to imagine a serene quiet labour and birth, (having watched several birth videos where the women just quietly breathed through the labour), I found that in my experience this body needed to make loud roaring sounds as an expression of the intense energy that flowed with each surge of the womb. Feeling my body opening and opening, and then my baby moving downwards, and only letting go to this. There was no fear, and nothing in me called these sensations painful. In fact there was not a lot of commenting on, or labeling these sensations at all. Although I felt a sense of spacious euphoria throughout, this was no escape from very much feeling the strong intensity of each wave of energy as Life birthed itself. As much as Robert was with me all the way, making loud roaring sounds alongside me, and our wonderful midwife was there with her own encouraging sounds and gentle touches, I knew without doubt that, it was not up to me, or anyone else to do anything. I was alone with my baby, as Life took us on this amazing journey together. I felt the very raw animal nature of this female body, doing exactly what she was made to do. It was messy, it was noisy, it was intense, but it was so incredibly alive and real.
After Sky was born, and I held him in my arms, all I can say was that I was mind-blown! Looking at Robert with tears streaming down his face, together we fell in love with this sweet little creature that came from nowhere.

~ Unmani

 

THE ROOT OF IT ALL

Analyzing negative thought patterns is helpful sometimes, but they are never the root of it all. These thoughts are just an expression of the old familiar belief that there is something missing, or wrong with you. The root of it all is You. And this ‘You’ is not a thought or belief. It is not something to agree, or disagree with. It is not something to become, or to doubt. It is the whole, spacious freedom that you have always been, even if thought imagines, or insists otherwise.

~ Unmani

NEW YOUTUBE: ‘WHAT ARE YOU REALLY SEARCHING FOR?’

A recent video filmed at our last intensive in Wales. ‘What are you really searching for?’
https://youtu.be/2RUHmY_kZwo

SLOWING DOWN

 As most of you already know, I am now about 7 months pregnant. Over the next few months, I am taking some time to slow down, and just be with what is happening with my body, our baby, and our beautiful little family.

Although I won’t be traveling or holding more meetings or intensives until August, I am offering a limited number of online private sessions until mid April. If you would like to arrange these, please see: https://www.die-to-love.com/wp/dive-in/online-private-sessions/
I will also be continuing with our Monthly Themed Webinars as long as it feels good to do.
During these ‘slow’ few months, Robert, will continue to post here on Facebook,Youtube, and our website. And Nicola, my assistant, will continue to respond to emails at: admin@die-to-love.com
Love Unmani

WAKING UP TO REALITY

Perhaps it’s time to wake up to reality. This reality might not fit your ideas about how ‘awakening’ should be. It does not give you any great reward, and is not necessarily comfortable. It might actually be painful to acknowledge what is really here. But the reality of what is really here, is where you are at right now. It’s like admitting that, yes this is what is happening now – whether I’d like to be more enlightened, or non-dual, or anything else. Throwing out all ideas about how it should be or could be, this is actually the truth of this human right now.
~ Unmani

THANK YOU TO THE PARTICIPANTS

Yesterday we finished the 5 day intensive in Wales. Thank you to all those lovely people who participated. Today we return to Amsterdam, where we will be based for the next few months.

I AM NOT ANY PARTICULAR EXPERIENCE

We are usually so fixated on experience that we assume that when there is a so-called ‘good’ experience, that that means that ‘I am a good person’, and when there is a so-called ‘bad’ experience, that that means ‘I am a bad person’. Thought doesn’t know who am I, so it looks to the play of experience for the answer. But experience keeps changing. We keep looking for our identity in what happens, rather than seeing that who we really are is that that is aware of the whole play of experience without exception.

~ Unmani

MONTHLY THEMED WEBINAR: ‘THE NATURE OF SUFFERING’

This month’s themed webinar will be this coming Sunday 1st March at 9pm GMT, and is entitled ‘What is the nature of suffering?’.
It is an opportunity for us to explore, share and inquire into the nature of suffering. There are no perfect answers or solutions but together we can bring some clarity where there might be confusion. Join us by clicking on the link.
https://www.die-to-love.com/dive-in/monthly-themed-webinar/

New Video Download

We have a new video filmed recently in USA, which is now available to download on our Video Downloads page.

‘Know Yourself’
https://www.die-to-love.com/wp/shop/video-downloads/

Video from SAND 2014

Here is the video recorded at the Science and Nonduality conference in October last year. Enjoy :-)

http://www.scienceandnonduality.com/oneness-beyond-belief-unmani/